Coming Back to You
The Great Awakening of Your Body and Your Soul
It all began in Labor
After I had my kids, I didn’t want anyone touching my body. I was overwhelmed nursing the twins. And all that involved. And my body was not what it had been. I was embarrassed by its softness and loss of muscles.
Then it got Worse
That began the slow drift apart. As the kids got older, my old self never returned. For many reasons, my sexual self was put in a box in the closet. I still had sex, but for me it wasn’t a participatory sport. It was a job in the service of my husband. (Because of course, as I’ve been told, men have NEEDS…)
As I got older, that side of myself atrophied.
The Whole vs. the Hole
From Gestalt therapy, I know the sum of the whole is greater than the individual parts. This was highlighted by Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich when he talks about groups having more impact than an individual person. Groups give you more stimulation and you can think of more diverse things. Just as a group’s energy multiplies when everyone shows up fully, your own energy expands when every part of you is included.
This means that with one part of me sequestered away, it leaves a hole, and the rest of me was less than.
Why?
Because our sexual energy is a critical part of us. It’s the spice that gets everything else going. What’s cinnamon toast without the cinnamon? Or chips without the salsa? Or pâté without the cornichon? (Honestly, if you haven’t tried it you are missing a flavor bonanza!)
The toast is good, but a whole new dimension is possible.
Your life might be good, but so much more is possible.
And the person who misses out is you.
Your sexual energy is a part of you. I’ve spoken to too many friends who say simply that that part of their life is over.
That is soul crushing.
Post Menopausal Joy
Don’t buy into the media that post menopausal women are over their prime and what? Waiting for their grandchildren? Waiting to die? What are we waiting for???
But this post menopausal time is a time to refocus on yourself - mind, soul, AND BODY!!
Finally you have the opportunity to take care of your own needs first.
Your body has needs and desires that call to be awakened. This is no time to leave this part of you dormant. It’s time for The Great Awakening.
Get that Box Out of the Closet!
How do you go about retrieving that box from the closet?
One important first step is to be conscious of the need. Awareness opens the lid of the box. It creates the desire to want to reunite your whole self.
Don’t think you need a partner for this.
Now is a good time to get over all those old religious mind traps that say you’re dirty if you touch your own body. That is crap and it makes me crazy.
The human body is a beautiful thing and thrives on physical touch.
The Methodology
You can awaken your own body by spending 10 minutes each morning with yourself. Gently caress your body. It’s intimate. It’s nourishing and activates your sense of touch.
It allows you to both give and receive.
And it’s all for you.
It’s a gentle practice that will awaken so much in you and get your hormones flowing.
Give in a try today and every day this week. You can do it when you first wake up or when you go to bed at night. Gently caressing your body.Start with one foot and move up your leg then the next foot. Then each arm and chest and face and scalp. It’s lovely. And it’s free and has zero calories!!
The Call to Action
So girls! It’s our time! Be a full participant in your life! Don’t settle for less than is possible for you. You are not here to get through the days. You are here to be all you can be and live to your fullest.
Yes, some days are harder than other days, and those are the days you need to spend extra time caressing your body. Sensing who you are. Connecting with your heart and soul.
You are called to show up for your life. Don’t let old outdated scripts run your life.
You have a beautiful body that desires your attention.
You can show up fully today and every day!
Don’t let others' expectations drive you.
Listen to your own heart and soul. Tune in to yourself.
When you do this simple awakening practice you will feel your body begin to respond and slowly awaken like the blossoming of a flower.
Radiate your essence.
Be all you can be. Start today.
If you enjoyed this Boudoir Banter, please forward to your friends! I am on a mission to get women to wake up to what is possible. The more the merrier!
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Have a great week!
Tarot Pull
Card of the Day: Queen of Pentacles
When I pulled a tarot card for this piece, I drew the Queen of Pentacles. She is the reminder that our bodies are sacred gardens. When we tend to them with care, touch, and attention, we don’t just survive — we flourish. She invites you to come back to yourself, to nurture your whole being, and to awaken the vitality that’s always been yours.